DON'T LET ANYONE ABUSE YOUR KINDNESS

Life is too short to allow people to treat you less than how you should actually be treated. People are quick to identify your weaknesses and use these weaknesses to take advantage of you.

In most cases, people realise that you kind and start to abuse your kindness.

They know that no matter how badly they treat you, you will always forgive them because you are naturally a kind person.

It is very important to know that sometimes people genuinely make mistakes and really ask for forgiveness probably because they have learnt from their mistakes and now they know better, these people do deserve a second chance to prove themselves and need to be separated from the kindness abusers.

A 'kindness abuser' as I call them, will make a mistake and apologise to you too, but the difference is the kindness abusers only says the things to manipulate and trick you into believing that they are genuinely apologising to you.

It is very hard to identify a kindness abuser at first because they seem and sound aunthetic at first, but time will always reveal their true colors.

As time goes by these abusers tend to be repetitive, they keep doing the same thing over and over again. If you pay attention, you will start to realise a pattern with their mistakes and apologies.

As a kind person it is hard for us to identify an abuser because we always give them the benefit of the doubt, we always want to see good in people because we see the goodness in ourselves. We always expect people to be kind to us because we are kind to them, and this is our biggest weakness. 

The best way to deal with this is not to eliminate or get rid of it completely because first of all, it is in our nature to be kind and we cannot change nature, but we can enhance one ability that we have or that we can build on.

The ability that we need to enhance is the ability to pay attention. Paying attention is the most important way to ensure that people don't use you. Nobody is perfect and nothing we ever do is perfect so No matter how hard they try to fool you, they will always leave some tiny detail that shows that they just using you.

Watch they way they apologise, listen to their apologies, keep track of how often they apologise and see whether they improve after the last apology or not.

Paying attention can really save you from a lot of hearbreaks.

And once you identify a kindness abuser do yourself a favor and remove them from your life because they will always find a way to manipulate you. These abusers don't love or care about you but they love what you can do for them.

Protect your inner peace by staying away from these people.